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Post-Op Update: 21 Weeks (Or So)

October 26, 2006 on 9:46 pm | In General | 4 Comments

Three bits of news then: 1) AgNO₃ and 2) Meeting up with an old friend and 3) Adoption.

The chemically minded among you may know that AgNO₃ is the formula for silver nitrate, the molecule used to chemically burn away granulation. Nice eh? So I went for my post-op check-up a few weeks ago, complaining of what we called “smelly cat”. Sure enough, I had some granulation that was producing a rather foul smell. Even better eh? Thankfully, it hasn’t come back as far as I can tell. The bleeding took a while to stop, but now I finally no longer have to wear pads. Hooray!

I met up with an old friend, his wife, and two of their friends last weekend. Although I didn’t know, I probably would have guessed that all of said folk, not just my friend and his wife, knew I’m trans and such. But I honestly didn’t really think about it. When said friend’s wife brought it up, it felt a bit shocking and a little annoying at first. I remember thinking, “Aw crap, do we have to deal with this now? I was having a really good time.” I ended up joke about it, trying to treat the subject light-heartedly. In hindsight, Gwyneth’s fragments from a rant drives the point home. You never stop being who you are. It’s only really the fact that we don’t like certain aspects of what we are that stings.

Along these same lines, Auntie and I needed to come out to a social worker when we went to an introductory session on adoption. We would both love a family. If anyone knows of a trans couple who have adopted, please let us know. I am hoping, though, that all the people we will need to work with to do this will have a child’s best interest at heart, rather than our past.